What’s Hot & What’s Not
The following list is something that I shared as part of our 3 part sermon series entitled Sex.Dating.Marriage. The sermon titled “Dating with Purpose” (which you can listen to online by clicking “Media” and “Online Sermons”) was basically making the case that God has either called you to be single or called you to be married…or if you think about it logically you will either be one or the other. Either way you should pursue those with purpose. Dating then is the step between singleness and marriage and dating should only be entered into for the purpose of Marriage and conducted in a healthy biblical way. The world tells us, and unfortunately we buy into it, what we should look for in a future spouse. I made the claim that “The church should have the most beautiful women and the most respectable men.” This list contains a few things that help us to identify and become beautiful and respectable.
Guys-What’s Hot
- A strong and evident walk with Christ (Matthew 7:15-23)
- Being a leader in your church (1 Thes 5:12-13, 1 Corinthians 15:58)
- Quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger (James 1:18-20)
- Good steward of finances. Avoids debt, appropriately spends, saves diligently, and gives generously (Proverbs 22:7, Proverbs 22:9, Proverbs 21:5, 2 Cor9:6-15)
- Old fashioned chivalry (1 Peter 3:7)
- Stands up for righteousness (2 Timothy 2:22)
- Understands and applies scripture (Psalm 119:1-16)
- Defines relational intentions (Proverbs 24:26)
- Admits faults and wrong doing (Proverbs 28:13)
- Protects (1 Cor 13:7)
- Taking initiative in pursuing women (Proverbs 18:22)
Guys- What’s Not
- Wandering eyes (Matthew 5:28-30)
- When hobbies become obsessions and waste time and money: video games, hunting, sports (Exodus 20:3)
- Objectifying women (Ephesians 5:23)
- Dating for selfish gain (Colossians 3:5)
- Self-absorbed and Prideful (Proverbs 21:24)
- Weak, passive, and insecure (2 Timothy 1:7)
Girls-What’s Hot
- Devoted to Christ, active in prayer (1 Peter 3:3-6)
- Exhibits the fruits of the Spirit Galatians (5:22-25)
- Modesty (1 Tim 2:9)
- Nurturing heart (Proverbs 22:6)
- Gentleness (Colossians 3:12)
- Confidence (Proverbs 31)
- Empathy (Romans 9:12-16)
- Supportive (Gen 2:18)
- Willing to be lead (Ephesians 5:22-33)
- Manages her home and family (Proverbs 31, 1 Tim 5:14)
Girls-What’s Not
- Dressing provocatively (Proverbs 7:10)
- Gossip (1 Timothy 5:13)
- Endless talking (I timothy 5:13, Proverbs 27:15)
- Alluring and seductive (Proverbs 5)
- Negative attention seeking (Proverbs 9:13)
- Materialistic (1 Tim 2:9)
- Surface Christianity and superficial (Matthew 23:28, 1 Samuel 16:7)
Disclaimer: Many of these principals could be applied to guys or girls it’s just some Christian principals to help re-enforce the sermon about dating Beautiful Women and Respectable Men in the church. This is not an exhaustive list nor is every bible verse in parenthesis a direct hermeneutical interpretation.
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